RIP Amanda Todd

You know why bullies exist?  Because our mating rituals are flawed.  You marry a meat-head because he can 'hold his own' in a fight?  Sort of like marrying a steel lamp post because 'he could really take a punch'.  You don't get the 'Sensitive' with the 'Insensitive'.  There is a view that the bully is a stronger person...because they are more willing to fight?  I've met enough people to know that the excuse they are more willing to fight for can be as varied as the individual but with one common denominator: Insecurity. 

Some of the most insecure people are more willing to fight.  These include people who have lived on the street.  Some have been in the prison system.  Some have grown up in rough neighborhoods possibly in foster homes.  The rage to get into a fight is actually a secondary response...the first is fear.  The fear comes from the idea that they are losing control.  This is not to be trifled with.  You might beat them in a fight but they will come back at you with a gun or a knife.  There is nothing more dangerous than a cornered animal.  In situations where you absolutely have no trust in the people and situations around you, power is the only thing you can strive for.  They find a partner and the first thing they HAVE to know about them is 'Which buttons to press'.  The problem is that if you behave like this, those who are closest to you will 'Learn' from your example and not trust you, or anyone else.   Hence the bully is born. 

Sometimes the lack of trust goes so deep but the 'Feral reaction' has not taken hold.  This is the worst for the fear of fighting.  You do not trust other people enough that you will not be seriously hurt.  The fear that if they get the upper hand, they will keep hitting until you are maimed or dead.  But that is a topic for another time.

A bully sees a sensitive person like Amanda Todd.  They go:

 "Hey! Why the fuck can she be sensitive!  Lets go take control away from her (like I've had done to me) and see how she handles it.  Maybe she knows something I don't.  (...and that way I don't have to be such an insecure douchebag all the time)" -Part Jealousy...part curiousity.  Believe it or not.

When it comes to bullies...a little punch goes a long ways.  Just show them that you are willing to fight and that you can take a punch and give it back.  If it looks like you are against a group; look for the one calling the shots and challenge them directly by saying 'What...you too chicken shit to take me on alone?'  That will give you, at least, a decent chance.  So maybe fighting isn't your thing.  Do it mafia style.  Give the toughest kid in school $100 to kick the crap out of this person for you.  If people say you were a wimp for not taking care of it yourself...just say that you are playing to your strengths and covering the other bases. They walk away scratching their heads since their 'Super-ego dialogue' does not have any contingency for variation.  If they say they will do the same to you... just say 'I didn't start this but I will finish it if I have to'.  You might have to take a few punches and lay down a few more C-notes but they will get the message.
 
My question about this whole 'Amanda Todd' fiasco is 'where were the parents?'  I'm sorry...your daughter is having an actual meltdown.  She needs for YOU to tell her:  That she is important.   That bullies are idiots.  That you love her.  and Give her a hug.

This beautiful, sensitive person didn't have to die.   If I had known her plight, I would have tried to help.  But I'm sure a lot of us are feeling that way. 

...and to the pedophile that tried to get 'a private sex show' that started the distribution of her pictures: You need to set this right.  Donate all your stuff to the parents of this child - with a letter of apology - then end it.